Wednesday, February 21, 2007

Tornado Day!

Are there days, when you feel such intense anger?
Like a piece of crumpled cotton clothing, on a wooden hangar.
It’s a mixed emotion,
It definitely squeezes out from life, everything positive and fun.
It drives you so crazy that you lose control,
And in your heart, it creates an unforgiving hole.

We all have days where things seem to be out of bounds. I like to call it a ‘tornado day’. What baffles me is how some people manage to fight the bad feelings and NOT hurt the person who’s caused him/her all this pain, while a few others snap. Who or what really determines this threshold point? In addition, why are some people so deliberately butch and incompetent with their social skills and why is their attitude so contemptuous?

I have been reading books and intriguing articles on ‘emotional intelligence’. For those of you new to this exemplary concept, emotional intelligence "is a type of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one's own and others' emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use the information to guide one's thinking and actions" (Mayer & Salovey, 1993: 433). In other words, it is the awareness of and ability to manage one's emotions in a healthy and productive manner.

Having said that, what I am curious to find out is if EQ is the sole determinant of the behavior & mannerisms we exhibit? Does the society we live in have any influence whatsoever? Is lower emotional intelligence, the despicable excuse people will continue to use for demonstrating poor social skills instead of taking responsibility?

Copyright © 02.21.2007


Rishi said...

I do not think that EQ is related to such behaviour. I believe any kind of wierd behaviour is dominated by your experience to handle it and the magnitude of damage created by such an experience.

My two cents said...

Dear Rishi,

Thanks for writing in. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I would argue your belief about EQ. People with low EQ have demonstrated (studies show that) poorer social skills.

Sure enough, your experience makes a difference; however, your perception of experience is related to your EQ.

Should people use low EQ as an excuse for being obnoxious; well, that's a whole other story.